I met Mi-Ri back in January, when I began The Discovery Project. While we both joined The Group Sessions with Bri for different reasons, I'm grateful we found ourselves on the same path of learning. Knowing I had women rooting for me as I changed my beliefs, was the only reason I was able to commit myself to the process - because most days it just felt too hard.
Mi-Ri exhibits a soft fierceness, that's the only way I know how to describe her. She is unabashedly herself. With Mi-Ri, you are heard, seen, and valued; you can't help but feel as if she's known you for years. She is also a gatherer of people, a "hostess with the mostess", with a heart of gratitude and humble service.
And if you're in the LA area, she'd love to cook for you. You should let her.
Responses by Mi-Ri Harris
What do you believe, and why?
I believe in the power of the Universe that lives inside of us, and our undeniable oneness. I believe that we work every day to believe in our true power so that we can create what we really want in this lifetime, and that we have more to learn in the next. We're sentient beings creating and sharing energy, learning the ropes on how to make shifts so that energy stays high without being draining.
How did you discover your beliefs?
Boy, it was a long time coming.
My mom always told us to enjoy life, to never worry about money. My dad always showed us how to have fun; he was goofy as all heck, always smiling and joking. My parents gave my siblings and I so much love, and took care of us with such dedication. We were abundant in life experience. I grew up with a few cultural beliefs, superstitions, ethics; all typical things that you learn from your family, and there were definitely some quirks. My sisters and I were a bit more sheltered than other kids - we weren't allowed to sleep over at anyone's houses, and I think I went to my first concert when I was 21. I know now that my parents were just being protective, since we were the only family we had - we didn't grow up around aunts, uncles, grandparents, or cousins. It was just us, always. As far as religious affiliation, we were non-denominational but celebrated Christian holidays.
So I came up with my own beliefs. They bordered on the mystical; I was into magic and fairies and dragons. I seem to have found my way back to those roots now in my adulthood in the form of self-worth and spirituality. What's been more interesting is that while I felt so alone and segregated by my beliefs as a child, I've now found myself among my people, so easily... and in huge numbers!
What I believe now has really been with me my whole life, but I feel like the puzzle pieces have just started falling into place. Everything is in its right time.
How do you interact with your beliefs?
I attribute a good deal of my realization to the amazing people and opportunities that have been set in front of me, showing me the way, leading me to my truth. I follow my gut. Sometimes I repeat my beliefs to myself whenever I'm faced with some kind of challenge, transition, or growth lesson. I also have an altar and vision board that are my physical representations of my core beliefs about myself - what I deserve and what I offer.
What do you do when you doubt your beliefs?
I really need alone time when I'm feeling super doubtful. A main reason I'll feel down about my beliefs, is if I'm not sure I'm on the "right" path or doing the "right" things to get onto the path. Then I'll pray, cry, scribble and draw, curse, listen to sad music, and let all those ugly doubts play out until I'm empty. Verbally, I'll say what I'm feeling, but not give it a reason. Like, I'll say, "I'm sad, disappointed, mad, angry, blah, not good...", but I won't say, "I'm sad because so-and-so did this, and disappointed because I..."
I need to get the feeling out; I feel it and acknowledge it. That releases it from me.
Once I'm empty, and kind of numb, I start refilling my brain and heart by focusing on the incredible gifts that have been, and continue to be, handed to me. Then I move forward, making plans that mean something to me and aren't just things that I think I should be doing. I've been finding the balance between doing what needs to be done and needing to be in control of all the things that are out of my control. Flexibility keeps my beliefs strong.
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